Joint Families In Pakistan

By Aaisha

Joint families undoubtedly have a significant impact on our children's lives. Grandparents are an enormous resource for homeschooling, but a housewife has to sacrifice a lot for her children. Furthermore, it is impossible to say that mixed families are without problems when a conservative family is involved.

Maintaining family traditions is admirable, but they sometimes work in our lives. The purpose of bringing up this topic is not to hurt anyone; instead, it is to illustrate the feelings of a woman or housewife. It's not just valid for modern women, I'm sure; it was also true for our moms, grandmothers, and mothers-in-law, who felt the same things but couldn't express them at the time.

People tended to focus more on the disadvantages in a study on joint families in Pakistan, although I don't concur with them. However, several advantages also deserve to have a place. So let's talk about the benefits and drawbacks I have learned from my experience and research.

Benefit:

• We feel comfortable that at least grandparents will watch over our children if we have them at home.

• When we feel in need, we receive more than one hand.  

• Our kids learn as much about Islamic beliefs as possible and are more enthusiastic about celebrating Islamic holidays.

•  Our householder can afford the expenses of a single home because of it.

•  It's beneficial in terms of safety too.

Drawbacks:

• We don't precisely have privacy as a married couple. 

• It doesn't matter if the objective is etiquette, attire, or even well-being; the comparison game is constantly in action.

• To keep the peace, we must agree with the senior member's opinion; otherwise, it would be considered wrong.

• Everyone must have our undivided attention and respect to maintain peace; otherwise, we'll appear insensitive hosts.

• The family's younger members must always carry the majority of the burden because they must show respect to the seniors and prevent bickering.

• We usually get a tiny space that overwhelms us most of the time.

To sum up, I'll say that joint families look great on the surface but feel oppressive too. And it can only be handled by women, yet she cannot express it.