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By Aaisha Why did we choose to marry? After a long time, I'm finally asking myself this question. Some of you might judge me because you think my marriage might have issues. Who in today's world doesn't have it? But it's not that; I'm asking because I now understand why you're getting married after all these years. For us? for the community, or because it is our parents' duty? Because if you see a wedding from an Islamic perspective, it is pretty lovely. But because of how difficult our culture has made it for both males and females, they only helplessly discover that they made the wrong decision years later. In Islam, a woman moves into her husband's home after marriage, whereas in our culture, she moves into her in-law's house. In Islam, a woman should follow her husband's orders and carry out his domestic duties, but in the community, she has to do anything her mother-in-law asks of her. In Islam, a girl can have privacy; however, accordin

By Aaisha We mostly find posts about women and children regarding their lifestyles, problems, and struggles. However, we rarely discuss the man of the house, who is the backbone of the family in most cases. Men play multiple roles in our lives, just as women do. Each part holds its importance and responsibility. Father A father is a beautiful blessing from Allah (SWT). They are the roof over our heads. Life wouldn't be complete without fathers. They are a son's pillar of support and a daughter's powerful shoulder. Fathers are essential to a child's emotional development, like mothers. Children look up to their fathers to develop their personalities and maintain discipline. Fathers also provide them with a dynamic and physical sense of security. The best thing a man can do for his child is to be a caring and active father. It's essential to be available to the children for their upbringing. They should feel comfortable with their fathers sharing everything wi

By Amna, Haven't we judged someone based on appearance, dress, talk, or behavior? Been there, done that. We are all to blame for this, but we only realize the problem when we are on the other end of the tunnel when we are the ones being judged instead of the ones believing.  We often hurry to make assumptions about others and form our versions of them in our minds without entirely knowing the person or what they are going through. I have been on both ends, but I am slowly trying to bring this change about for myself. I am changing my perspective. I take a minute to analyze the situation before I conclude. So next time you meet a friend or a relative, don't be harsh if they seem lost or rude. In most cases, it's just not their day. Kindness can do wonders. Being kind does not imply putting yourself ahead of others. It means to be genuinely thoughtful or generous to one another. And I can assure you that, like most things, kindness begins at home. First, be kind to yourself,

 By Amna Earlier, we discussed the subject of perfectionism. Since "comparison" falls under the same umbrella We want to talk about it separately.   We all have been the target of comparison, and it's not only present in adults; among children, it's prevalent.  "Her kid is so much better than yours." "Look at how well she manages the house and the kids! " "She lost all her weight right after delivering" "She always appears to be on point."  "You are wearing such a simple dress." Every day, we hear all of this and so much more. We are under constant pressure to be on top of "this comparison game." But, unfortunately, we lose ourselves in trying to prove to others that we can do it too. This undefeated battle of comparison makes us miss precious moments. We forget to slow down and live in the present. Just because someone can wake up at 7 in the morning, prepare a lavish breakfast, be ready before lunchtime, an

B y Aaisha How frequently in your life have you heard the word "perfect"? Yet, I often listen to this word. "Place everything precisely." "Prepare meals perfectly." "Appear yourself greatly." "The space must be spotless." "That is a perfect outfit." "I want my children to be perfect in everything." It's not like we're behaving this way because we constantly want things to be perfect and precise; instead, it's something that comes naturally to us: perfection. It looks pretty positive. Right? What if, unfortunately, you are not perfect in any way? The simple response is that you don't belong in this world; you're useless and don't know anything. As a result, we begin to think that we cannot satisfy anyone and feel guilty, weak, and incomplete about ourselves. Unfortunately, our mental and physical health then starts to be affected by these negative perceptions. I often consider how organized my

By Aaisha “Although I want to lose weight, it isn’t effortless; I can’t do it. It’s challenging. Sadly, I can’t keep a regular workout or eating schedule.” Like me, most women who have put on a lot of weight experience this issue. I find it difficult to exercise and eat regularly. I love good food, and I have a sweet tooth in particular. However, desserts are my weakness, and I occasionally overeat as well. I try to control my portions, but when the weekend comes around, my stomach grunts for more food. As a result, all of my efforts have been in vain. Sometimes I feel full, but the munching makes me think that way. Because I have a strong sugar addiction, it requires a great deal of effort for me to restrict myself. When I exercise or follow a diet, I feel amazing. Still, when I do not notice a change on the scale, I lose interest and depressively eat more, and when I finally get motivated again, all of the weight I’ve lost reappears. I have stopped looking at the scale since at

By Amna Assalam Alaikum,  Hi, I am Amna, a mum of two under two. I got married four years ago and moved to Dubai. I have done my Bachelor's in Business and Management.  I gave my exams for my last semester after my wedding. I enjoy baking and have baked some very yummy cakes for my family. I have even done a few short baking courses. My nieces and nephews love the cupcakes I used to bake for them before I got married. I always thought of selling my cakes, but I need help finding the confidence in me. One day I might start this.  My first daughter, Ayzal, was born two years after my wedding. She brought with her so much sparkle that it filled my life with joy. Coming from a joint family living alone, Ayzal was a breath of fresh air. She is 18 months old, and her little antics is my entertainment source.  Then came Zoya, my surprise baby. She is just three months old. Ayzal was just over six months old when Allah blessed me with another baby. I was unprepared for her and learned abou

By Aaisha نوری محفل پہ چادر تنی نور کی نور پھیلا ہوا آج کی رات ہے چاندنی میں ڈوبے ہوۓ دو جہاں کون جلوہ نما آج کی رات ہے Eid e Miladun Nabi is one of the major festivals that Muslims celebrate. We commemorate this occasion on the 12th of Rabi ul Awwal. The followers of Rasool (SAW) celebrate the glorious day of the Beloved Rasool's (SAW) birth with tremendous zeal and passion and show their devotion to the Beloved Rasool. My daughter's school also had a vast Eid e Milad U Nabi celebration a few days ago. Teachers, staff members, kids, and parents were all accordingly attired. The girls were sporting gorgeous bright-colored dupattas with their white shalwar kameez. The boys were dressed in stunning white kurta pajamas. I attended the function along with my mother. A lovely recitation of the Quran Majeed with translation began the ceremony. The junior class student then recited the Hamd. Then the chain of graceful Naat started. My daughter actively participated in the Naat group a

By Aaisha & Amna Through generations, a mother's house is heaven for a daughter. This place becomes even more special once the girl gets married and settles into her new home. The warmth, comfort, love, and easiness of a parent's home are unmatchable. You will not find it anywhere else in the world.  When I see my children get excited on Friday afternoons, rushing to get their homework done so they can go to Nani's house, it brings me immense joy. It reminded me of my childhood when I used to go with my mum to her place.  Allah Pak has indeed made mothers with lots of love. They do things for us that are so mundane, but their love and care make them so valuable. My mother would also prepare my favorite dishes and my children's. Now they wait to meet the kids more than me.  When I was pregnant with my little one, I stayed quite a lot at my parent's house, so my third child, Aaira, got super attached to my parents. Only they could do all her chores. So she calls m

By Aaisha Joint families undoubtedly have a significant impact on our children's lives. Grandparents are an enormous resource for homeschooling, but a housewife has to sacrifice a lot for her children. Furthermore, it is impossible to say that mixed families are without problems when a conservative family is involved. Maintaining family traditions is admirable, but they sometimes work in our lives.  The purpose of bringing up this topic is not to hurt anyone; instead, it is to illustrate the feelings of a woman or housewife. It's not just valid for modern women, I'm sure; it was also true for our moms, grandmothers, and mothers-in-law, who felt the same things but couldn't express them at the time. People tended to focus more on the disadvantages in a study on joint families in Pakistan, although I don't concur with them. However, several advantages also deserve to have a place. So let's talk about the benefits and drawbacks I have learned from my experience and

By Aaisha We can't live without our maids, and this is a sentiment shared by all women, especially in Pakistan. They are the most important people in our lives. So consequently, we become enraged when she  unexpectedly  cancels her shift, acting as though we had just purchased her and made her our concubine. The same thing occurred to me; my maid didn't show up, and I had to complete all the work alone. I also left some tasks for her to finish when she gets here tomorrow. I was furious with her, but as my rage subsided, I realized that she also had a family, children to care for, a spouse, can have urgency, and, most importantly, she is a human , but we women don't think about them. Instead, we yell at them for not showing up for work and not listening to their problems. I did the same thing, but once my kids fell ill, I realized that her kids had the same illness, and if I couldn't leave my kids in that condition, how could she? I came across a blog on how Pakistani wo

By Aaisha Being a mother to four lovely, fun-loving children is not easy, but it is also rewarding. So let me begin by introducing my first child: Maira Mirab: Maira means "upright, virtuous, and righteous," and Mirab means "flower of paradise." She is the big sister to her siblings and my first child. She is choleric, companionable, loud, confident, upbeat, and independent. She enjoys doing crafts and taking pictures. Abdur Rehman: Abdur Rehman translates as "the servant of the most forgiving." He is my second child. He is a gloomy, deep, thoughtful, considerate, helpful, and introverted soul. Besides playing video games, he enjoys playing cricket. Aaira Mirab: Aaira means "noble, honorable, and respectful." She is my third child. She has a happy, vivacious, playful, creative, and chatty spirit. She just began school, and she enjoys singing poetry. She enjoys reading tales about Barbie, princesses, unicorns, and mermaids. She prefers quiet time

By Aaisha Assalamu Alaikum, My name is Aaisha,  and I'm a mother of four—two girls and two boys—and a housewife. There isn't anything special about me because I'm a standard housewife. However, I want to step outside my comfort zone and try something new.  My only goal is to have fun and spice up a little. I started looking for activities a housewife could do while sitting in her room because I felt a little depressed about my regular daily routine.   As my brain gradually began to function, I decided to start writing. I looked into the subject but discovered that everyone was talking about everything except us - the housewives. Since I live in Pakistan with a very conservative family, people assume housework is easy, and housewives lead comfortable lives. Still, they don't realize that it is just as exhausting to be a housewife as it is to be a working woman.  A working woman gets a day off, or a holiday, while a housewife works every holiday, every leave, and even eve