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By Aaisha Why did we choose to marry? After a long time, I'm finally asking myself this question. Some of you might judge me because you think my marriage might have issues. Who in today's world doesn't have it? But it's not that; I'm asking because I now understand why you're getting married after all these years. For us? for the community, or because it is our parents' duty? Because if you see a wedding from an Islamic perspective, it is pretty lovely. But because of how difficult our culture has made it for both males and females, they only helplessly discover that they made the wrong decision years later. In Islam, a woman moves into her husband's home after marriage, whereas in our culture, she moves into her in-law's house. In Islam, a woman should follow her husband's orders and carry out his domestic duties, but in the community, she has to do anything her mother-in-law asks of her. In Islam, a girl can have privacy; however, accordin

By Aaisha We mostly find posts about women and children regarding their lifestyles, problems, and struggles. However, we rarely discuss the man of the house, who is the backbone of the family in most cases. Men play multiple roles in our lives, just as women do. Each part holds its importance and responsibility. Father A father is a beautiful blessing from Allah (SWT). They are the roof over our heads. Life wouldn't be complete without fathers. They are a son's pillar of support and a daughter's powerful shoulder. Fathers are essential to a child's emotional development, like mothers. Children look up to their fathers to develop their personalities and maintain discipline. Fathers also provide them with a dynamic and physical sense of security. The best thing a man can do for his child is to be a caring and active father. It's essential to be available to the children for their upbringing. They should feel comfortable with their fathers sharing everything wi

B y Aaisha How frequently in your life have you heard the word "perfect"? Yet, I often listen to this word. "Place everything precisely." "Prepare meals perfectly." "Appear yourself greatly." "The space must be spotless." "That is a perfect outfit." "I want my children to be perfect in everything." It's not like we're behaving this way because we constantly want things to be perfect and precise; instead, it's something that comes naturally to us: perfection. It looks pretty positive. Right? What if, unfortunately, you are not perfect in any way? The simple response is that you don't belong in this world; you're useless and don't know anything. As a result, we begin to think that we cannot satisfy anyone and feel guilty, weak, and incomplete about ourselves. Unfortunately, our mental and physical health then starts to be affected by these negative perceptions. I often consider how organized my

By Amna After months of waiting for good news, I gave up and left it all to Allah. His plans are the best for us. The news of my pregnancy came as a surprise. We were delighted and very grateful to welcome a new baby. But honestly, it does have a drastic impact on our relationship. One new human being completely changes the dynamics of two individuals, especially the mother. The mother loses her sense of self in many ways. This feeling profoundly affects the bond between the partners. During my second pregnancy, I would often stay sick. Back-to-back pregnancies took a massive toll on not just my physical health but also my mental health.   With my hormones all over the place, I would get upset over little things. I felt lonely and lost. I could not give words to my feelings and would cry a lot. In addition, these pregnancies led to numerous arguments with my husband over petty issues.  I would feel he could not understand my condition, and he would feel I had nothing to do but complain