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By Aaisha Why did we choose to marry? After a long time, I'm finally asking myself this question. Some of you might judge me because you think my marriage might have issues. Who in today's world doesn't have it? But it's not that; I'm asking because I now understand why you're getting married after all these years. For us? for the community, or because it is our parents' duty? Because if you see a wedding from an Islamic perspective, it is pretty lovely. But because of how difficult our culture has made it for both males and females, they only helplessly discover that they made the wrong decision years later. In Islam, a woman moves into her husband's home after marriage, whereas in our culture, she moves into her in-law's house. In Islam, a woman should follow her husband's orders and carry out his domestic duties, but in the community, she has to do anything her mother-in-law asks of her. In Islam, a girl can have privacy; however, accordin

By Aaisha   After almost a year, I decided to take a break with my kids and visit my family in Dubai. It was a fun-filled, refreshing, entertaining, and energizing trip. It’s not like we did a lot, but just being there with each other and spending quality time. I traveled with my parents and brother and headed for a journey right after my kid’s exams. They were as excited as I was. My brother and sister( partner in Mom Story) live there. We talk about separation as living away from your siblings is also tricky. So the four of us would sit together and chat away. Our bhabhi, our partner in crime, is part of all the fun, and we cherish this bond very much. Late-night fun, long drives, teasing each other, and laughing nonstop was the highlight of our trip. Not to forget the children! And Masha Allah, we had our little nursery with kids of all ages. They became friends, played together, fought with each other, and drove us crazy most of the time. But it was all worth it. We brought b

By Aaisha We mostly find posts about women and children regarding their lifestyles, problems, and struggles. However, we rarely discuss the man of the house, who is the backbone of the family in most cases. Men play multiple roles in our lives, just as women do. Each part holds its importance and responsibility. Father A father is a beautiful blessing from Allah (SWT). They are the roof over our heads. Life wouldn't be complete without fathers. They are a son's pillar of support and a daughter's powerful shoulder. Fathers are essential to a child's emotional development, like mothers. Children look up to their fathers to develop their personalities and maintain discipline. Fathers also provide them with a dynamic and physical sense of security. The best thing a man can do for his child is to be a caring and active father. It's essential to be available to the children for their upbringing. They should feel comfortable with their fathers sharing everything wi

By Amna, Haven't we judged someone based on appearance, dress, talk, or behavior? Been there, done that. We are all to blame for this, but we only realize the problem when we are on the other end of the tunnel when we are the ones being judged instead of the ones believing.  We often hurry to make assumptions about others and form our versions of them in our minds without entirely knowing the person or what they are going through. I have been on both ends, but I am slowly trying to bring this change about for myself. I am changing my perspective. I take a minute to analyze the situation before I conclude. So next time you meet a friend or a relative, don't be harsh if they seem lost or rude. In most cases, it's just not their day. Kindness can do wonders. Being kind does not imply putting yourself ahead of others. It means to be genuinely thoughtful or generous to one another. And I can assure you that, like most things, kindness begins at home. First, be kind to yourself,

 By Aaisha Strange but true, handling tantrums, especially in public, is difficult for a mother. Only older children may be able to understand what you're saying, but you can't explain it to younger kids. You also need to justify your attention to the younger children to the older ones, which is sometimes impossible. Does that make sense? What should I do? I also need clarification. Many people advise me to remain calm and manage the situation carefully and firmly, but in reality, my level of anger increases and becomes difficult to control. The way my husband handles this problem at the moment is to grant their requests, which is incorrect because they will do so again and again in front of other people. I remind them that they should listen for "No," as nothing we want in life comes effortlessly. Instead, they should know that we must work hard to achieve a specific goal. My husband agrees. At the time, he wants to get the thing fixed. Even at home, I become i

 By Amna Earlier, we discussed the subject of perfectionism. Since "comparison" falls under the same umbrella We want to talk about it separately.   We all have been the target of comparison, and it's not only present in adults; among children, it's prevalent.  "Her kid is so much better than yours." "Look at how well she manages the house and the kids! " "She lost all her weight right after delivering" "She always appears to be on point."  "You are wearing such a simple dress." Every day, we hear all of this and so much more. We are under constant pressure to be on top of "this comparison game." But, unfortunately, we lose ourselves in trying to prove to others that we can do it too. This undefeated battle of comparison makes us miss precious moments. We forget to slow down and live in the present. Just because someone can wake up at 7 in the morning, prepare a lavish breakfast, be ready before lunchtime, an

B y Aaisha How frequently in your life have you heard the word "perfect"? Yet, I often listen to this word. "Place everything precisely." "Prepare meals perfectly." "Appear yourself greatly." "The space must be spotless." "That is a perfect outfit." "I want my children to be perfect in everything." It's not like we're behaving this way because we constantly want things to be perfect and precise; instead, it's something that comes naturally to us: perfection. It looks pretty positive. Right? What if, unfortunately, you are not perfect in any way? The simple response is that you don't belong in this world; you're useless and don't know anything. As a result, we begin to think that we cannot satisfy anyone and feel guilty, weak, and incomplete about ourselves. Unfortunately, our mental and physical health then starts to be affected by these negative perceptions. I often consider how organized my