Mom story

By Aaisha   After almost a year, I decided to take a break with my kids and visit my family in Dubai. It was a fun-filled, refreshing, entertaining, and energizing trip. It’s not like we did a lot, but just being there with each other and spending quality time. I traveled with my parents and brother and headed for a journey right after my kid’s exams. They were as excited as I was. My brother and sister( partner in Mom Story) live there. We talk about separation as living away from your siblings is also tricky. So the four of us would sit together and chat away. Our bhabhi, our partner in crime, is part of all the fun, and we cherish this bond very much. Late-night fun, long drives, teasing each other, and laughing nonstop was the highlight of our trip. Not to forget the children! And Masha Allah, we had our little nursery with kids of all ages. They became friends, played together, fought with each other, and drove us crazy most of the time. But it was all worth it. We brought b

By Aaisha We mostly find posts about women and children regarding their lifestyles, problems, and struggles. However, we rarely discuss the man of the house, who is the backbone of the family in most cases. Men play multiple roles in our lives, just as women do. Each part holds its importance and responsibility. Father A father is a beautiful blessing from Allah (SWT). They are the roof over our heads. Life wouldn't be complete without fathers. They are a son's pillar of support and a daughter's powerful shoulder. Fathers are essential to a child's emotional development, like mothers. Children look up to their fathers to develop their personalities and maintain discipline. Fathers also provide them with a dynamic and physical sense of security. The best thing a man can do for his child is to be a caring and active father. It's essential to be available to the children for their upbringing. They should feel comfortable with their fathers sharing everything wi

By Amna, Haven't we judged someone based on appearance, dress, talk, or behavior? Been there, done that. We are all to blame for this, but we only realize the problem when we are on the other end of the tunnel when we are the ones being judged instead of the ones believing.  We often hurry to make assumptions about others and form our versions of them in our minds without entirely knowing the person or what they are going through. I have been on both ends, but I am slowly trying to bring this change about for myself. I am changing my perspective. I take a minute to analyze the situation before I conclude. So next time you meet a friend or a relative, don't be harsh if they seem lost or rude. In most cases, it's just not their day. Kindness can do wonders. Being kind does not imply putting yourself ahead of others. It means to be genuinely thoughtful or generous to one another. And I can assure you that, like most things, kindness begins at home. First, be kind to yourself,

 By Aaisha Strange but true, handling tantrums, especially in public, is difficult for a mother. Only older children may be able to understand what you're saying, but you can't explain it to younger kids. You also need to justify your attention to the younger children to the older ones, which is sometimes impossible. Does that make sense? What should I do? I also need clarification. Many people advise me to remain calm and manage the situation carefully and firmly, but in reality, my level of anger increases and becomes difficult to control. The way my husband handles this problem at the moment is to grant their requests, which is incorrect because they will do so again and again in front of other people. I remind them that they should listen for "No," as nothing we want in life comes effortlessly. Instead, they should know that we must work hard to achieve a specific goal. My husband agrees. At the time, he wants to get the thing fixed. Even at home, I become i

 By Amna Earlier, we discussed the subject of perfectionism. Since "comparison" falls under the same umbrella We want to talk about it separately.   We all have been the target of comparison, and it's not only present in adults; among children, it's prevalent.  "Her kid is so much better than yours." "Look at how well she manages the house and the kids! " "She lost all her weight right after delivering" "She always appears to be on point."  "You are wearing such a simple dress." Every day, we hear all of this and so much more. We are under constant pressure to be on top of "this comparison game." But, unfortunately, we lose ourselves in trying to prove to others that we can do it too. This undefeated battle of comparison makes us miss precious moments. We forget to slow down and live in the present. Just because someone can wake up at 7 in the morning, prepare a lavish breakfast, be ready before lunchtime, an

B y Aaisha How frequently in your life have you heard the word "perfect"? Yet, I often listen to this word. "Place everything precisely." "Prepare meals perfectly." "Appear yourself greatly." "The space must be spotless." "That is a perfect outfit." "I want my children to be perfect in everything." It's not like we're behaving this way because we constantly want things to be perfect and precise; instead, it's something that comes naturally to us: perfection. It looks pretty positive. Right? What if, unfortunately, you are not perfect in any way? The simple response is that you don't belong in this world; you're useless and don't know anything. As a result, we begin to think that we cannot satisfy anyone and feel guilty, weak, and incomplete about ourselves. Unfortunately, our mental and physical health then starts to be affected by these negative perceptions. I often consider how organized my

By Aaisha “Although I want to lose weight, it isn’t effortless; I can’t do it. It’s challenging. Sadly, I can’t keep a regular workout or eating schedule.” Like me, most women who have put on a lot of weight experience this issue. I find it difficult to exercise and eat regularly. I love good food, and I have a sweet tooth in particular. However, desserts are my weakness, and I occasionally overeat as well. I try to control my portions, but when the weekend comes around, my stomach grunts for more food. As a result, all of my efforts have been in vain. Sometimes I feel full, but the munching makes me think that way. Because I have a strong sugar addiction, it requires a great deal of effort for me to restrict myself. When I exercise or follow a diet, I feel amazing. Still, when I do not notice a change on the scale, I lose interest and depressively eat more, and when I finally get motivated again, all of the weight I’ve lost reappears. I have stopped looking at the scale since at

By Amna After months of waiting for good news, I gave up and left it all to Allah. His plans are the best for us. The news of my pregnancy came as a surprise. We were delighted and very grateful to welcome a new baby. But honestly, it does have a drastic impact on our relationship. One new human being completely changes the dynamics of two individuals, especially the mother. The mother loses her sense of self in many ways. This feeling profoundly affects the bond between the partners. During my second pregnancy, I would often stay sick. Back-to-back pregnancies took a massive toll on not just my physical health but also my mental health.   With my hormones all over the place, I would get upset over little things. I felt lonely and lost. I could not give words to my feelings and would cry a lot. In addition, these pregnancies led to numerous arguments with my husband over petty issues.  I would feel he could not understand my condition, and he would feel I had nothing to do but complain

By Aaisha The postpartum depression-the dark side of my life When I began researching this topic, I learned that it is never openly discussed in Pakistan and also worldwide. I don't know why people are embarrassed to discuss mental health issues. Physical and psychological wellness are equally important. So, why is it considered a pang of guilt? Postpartum depression has been a nightmare for me. I was completely unaware of it until Aaira was born; I suffered from it for extended periods, which dilated it. Going to a psychiatrist is considered a stain on one's personality in our society. Therefore I never thought of it. By the time I had my third child, I had deteriorated so severely that I was a dead person with no feelings, emotions, or even love for my kids. I used to be highly irritated by others, cry frequently, and shut myself in the bathroom. I would yell at my children and ignore their needs. I became so angry at times that my entire body shivered, and my body temper

By Amna Ayzel Ayzel, my firstborn, is the one who made me a mother. She is a lively and observant child. She likes to play peek-a-boo. She recently learned how to give a flying kiss. One thing that she truly enjoys watching is coco melon, and she calls it coco.  Whenever I was praying namaz, she would start praying with me, hug me, and kiss me. She carries her baby doll around like I have Zoya.  Zoya Baby Zoya, my little darling, loves it when we sit and talk to her. She cries at a time just so that we give her attention. Her smiles during massage times are my favorites.  I am excited to see the bond they will share, and I pray they cherish their friendship forever. 

By Amna Assalam Alaikum,  Hi, I am Amna, a mum of two under two. I got married four years ago and moved to Dubai. I have done my Bachelor's in Business and Management.  I gave my exams for my last semester after my wedding. I enjoy baking and have baked some very yummy cakes for my family. I have even done a few short baking courses. My nieces and nephews love the cupcakes I used to bake for them before I got married. I always thought of selling my cakes, but I need help finding the confidence in me. One day I might start this.  My first daughter, Ayzal, was born two years after my wedding. She brought with her so much sparkle that it filled my life with joy. Coming from a joint family living alone, Ayzal was a breath of fresh air. She is 18 months old, and her little antics is my entertainment source.  Then came Zoya, my surprise baby. She is just three months old. Ayzal was just over six months old when Allah blessed me with another baby. I was unprepared for her and learned abou

By Aaisha & Amna Log kya kahenge? It won't be untrue to say that almost all of us have heard this at different stages of our lives. These people are invisible yet very much present in our day-to-day lives. They have an opinion and pass judgment on all our actions. Therefore, they are constantly killing our happiness. "I want to take driving lessons." "No, what will people say? We made you independent. " "I want to continue my studies and work in a paying position." "No, what will people say? So, a girl makes more money! The husband or father cannot pay for the expenses. " "I want more kids." "No, what will people say? Is it easy? Please don't try to conceive again! The financial burden of having more children is enormous! " All these so-called people have had an impact on my personal decisions. It's not that we want to give them importance, but our upbringing has made them a part of our minds. They are always h

By Aaisha نوری محفل پہ چادر تنی نور کی نور پھیلا ہوا آج کی رات ہے چاندنی میں ڈوبے ہوۓ دو جہاں کون جلوہ نما آج کی رات ہے Eid e Miladun Nabi is one of the major festivals that Muslims celebrate. We commemorate this occasion on the 12th of Rabi ul Awwal. The followers of Rasool (SAW) celebrate the glorious day of the Beloved Rasool's (SAW) birth with tremendous zeal and passion and show their devotion to the Beloved Rasool. My daughter's school also had a vast Eid e Milad U Nabi celebration a few days ago. Teachers, staff members, kids, and parents were all accordingly attired. The girls were sporting gorgeous bright-colored dupattas with their white shalwar kameez. The boys were dressed in stunning white kurta pajamas. I attended the function along with my mother. A lovely recitation of the Quran Majeed with translation began the ceremony. The junior class student then recited the Hamd. Then the chain of graceful Naat started. My daughter actively participated in the Naat group a

By Aaisha  'Chirp, chirp, chirp,' calling out the birds while enjoying the bright morning sun. This is how my day begins. Their beautiful voices fill up my room and get me started for my day. Birdkeeping is a hobby that I  cherish; I have kept four different types of breeds. Each bird is unique in its own way. Also, feeding the birds is a great activity to do with kids. My elder two are responsible for ensuring the birds are well-fed and cared for. This works as a great bonding session. Also, teaching them about animals and being thoughtful and caring towards them. Let me take you on a tour of my birds. The four breeds are the Cockatiel parrot, Budgerigar bird, Fischer lovebird, and Australian Zebra finch . Cockatiel parrot The cockatiel is a medium-sized parrot and is a member of the cockatoo family. As cage birds, they are easy to breed all over the world. They are found in Australia and are always close to water. Their life span is up to 16 to 25 years. Their lovely voic

By Aaisha & Amna Through generations, a mother's house is heaven for a daughter. This place becomes even more special once the girl gets married and settles into her new home. The warmth, comfort, love, and easiness of a parent's home are unmatchable. You will not find it anywhere else in the world.  When I see my children get excited on Friday afternoons, rushing to get their homework done so they can go to Nani's house, it brings me immense joy. It reminded me of my childhood when I used to go with my mum to her place.  Allah Pak has indeed made mothers with lots of love. They do things for us that are so mundane, but their love and care make them so valuable. My mother would also prepare my favorite dishes and my children's. Now they wait to meet the kids more than me.  When I was pregnant with my little one, I stayed quite a lot at my parent's house, so my third child, Aaira, got super attached to my parents. Only they could do all her chores. So she calls m

By Aaisha Joint families undoubtedly have a significant impact on our children's lives. Grandparents are an enormous resource for homeschooling, but a housewife has to sacrifice a lot for her children. Furthermore, it is impossible to say that mixed families are without problems when a conservative family is involved. Maintaining family traditions is admirable, but they sometimes work in our lives.  The purpose of bringing up this topic is not to hurt anyone; instead, it is to illustrate the feelings of a woman or housewife. It's not just valid for modern women, I'm sure; it was also true for our moms, grandmothers, and mothers-in-law, who felt the same things but couldn't express them at the time. People tended to focus more on the disadvantages in a study on joint families in Pakistan, although I don't concur with them. However, several advantages also deserve to have a place. So let's talk about the benefits and drawbacks I have learned from my experience and