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By Aaisha Why did we choose to marry? After a long time, I'm finally asking myself this question. Some of you might judge me because you think my marriage might have issues. Who in today's world doesn't have it? But it's not that; I'm asking because I now understand why you're getting married after all these years. For us? for the community, or because it is our parents' duty? Because if you see a wedding from an Islamic perspective, it is pretty lovely. But because of how difficult our culture has made it for both males and females, they only helplessly discover that they made the wrong decision years later. In Islam, a woman moves into her husband's home after marriage, whereas in our culture, she moves into her in-law's house. In Islam, a woman should follow her husband's orders and carry out his domestic duties, but in the community, she has to do anything her mother-in-law asks of her. In Islam, a girl can have privacy; however, accordin

By Amna Ayzel Ayzel, my firstborn, is the one who made me a mother. She is a lively and observant child. She likes to play peek-a-boo. She recently learned how to give a flying kiss. One thing that she truly enjoys watching is coco melon, and she calls it coco.  Whenever I was praying namaz, she would start praying with me, hug me, and kiss me. She carries her baby doll around like I have Zoya.  Zoya Baby Zoya, my little darling, loves it when we sit and talk to her. She cries at a time just so that we give her attention. Her smiles during massage times are my favorites.  I am excited to see the bond they will share, and I pray they cherish their friendship forever. 

By Amna Assalam Alaikum,  Hi, I am Amna, a mum of two under two. I got married four years ago and moved to Dubai. I have done my Bachelor's in Business and Management.  I gave my exams for my last semester after my wedding. I enjoy baking and have baked some very yummy cakes for my family. I have even done a few short baking courses. My nieces and nephews love the cupcakes I used to bake for them before I got married. I always thought of selling my cakes, but I need help finding the confidence in me. One day I might start this.  My first daughter, Ayzal, was born two years after my wedding. She brought with her so much sparkle that it filled my life with joy. Coming from a joint family living alone, Ayzal was a breath of fresh air. She is 18 months old, and her little antics is my entertainment source.  Then came Zoya, my surprise baby. She is just three months old. Ayzal was just over six months old when Allah blessed me with another baby. I was unprepared for her and learned abou

By Aaisha & Amna Log kya kahenge? It won't be untrue to say that almost all of us have heard this at different stages of our lives. These people are invisible yet very much present in our day-to-day lives. They have an opinion and pass judgment on all our actions. Therefore, they are constantly killing our happiness. "I want to take driving lessons." "No, what will people say? We made you independent. " "I want to continue my studies and work in a paying position." "No, what will people say? So, a girl makes more money! The husband or father cannot pay for the expenses. " "I want more kids." "No, what will people say? Is it easy? Please don't try to conceive again! The financial burden of having more children is enormous! " All these so-called people have had an impact on my personal decisions. It's not that we want to give them importance, but our upbringing has made them a part of our minds. They are always h

By Aaisha نوری محفل پہ چادر تنی نور کی نور پھیلا ہوا آج کی رات ہے چاندنی میں ڈوبے ہوۓ دو جہاں کون جلوہ نما آج کی رات ہے Eid e Miladun Nabi is one of the major festivals that Muslims celebrate. We commemorate this occasion on the 12th of Rabi ul Awwal. The followers of Rasool (SAW) celebrate the glorious day of the Beloved Rasool's (SAW) birth with tremendous zeal and passion and show their devotion to the Beloved Rasool. My daughter's school also had a vast Eid e Milad U Nabi celebration a few days ago. Teachers, staff members, kids, and parents were all accordingly attired. The girls were sporting gorgeous bright-colored dupattas with their white shalwar kameez. The boys were dressed in stunning white kurta pajamas. I attended the function along with my mother. A lovely recitation of the Quran Majeed with translation began the ceremony. The junior class student then recited the Hamd. Then the chain of graceful Naat started. My daughter actively participated in the Naat group a

By Aaisha  'Chirp, chirp, chirp,' calling out the birds while enjoying the bright morning sun. This is how my day begins. Their beautiful voices fill up my room and get me started for my day. Birdkeeping is a hobby that I  cherish; I have kept four different types of breeds. Each bird is unique in its own way. Also, feeding the birds is a great activity to do with kids. My elder two are responsible for ensuring the birds are well-fed and cared for. This works as a great bonding session. Also, teaching them about animals and being thoughtful and caring towards them. Let me take you on a tour of my birds. The four breeds are the Cockatiel parrot, Budgerigar bird, Fischer lovebird, and Australian Zebra finch . Cockatiel parrot The cockatiel is a medium-sized parrot and is a member of the cockatoo family. As cage birds, they are easy to breed all over the world. They are found in Australia and are always close to water. Their life span is up to 16 to 25 years. Their lovely voic

By Aaisha & Amna Through generations, a mother's house is heaven for a daughter. This place becomes even more special once the girl gets married and settles into her new home. The warmth, comfort, love, and easiness of a parent's home are unmatchable. You will not find it anywhere else in the world.  When I see my children get excited on Friday afternoons, rushing to get their homework done so they can go to Nani's house, it brings me immense joy. It reminded me of my childhood when I used to go with my mum to her place.  Allah Pak has indeed made mothers with lots of love. They do things for us that are so mundane, but their love and care make them so valuable. My mother would also prepare my favorite dishes and my children's. Now they wait to meet the kids more than me.  When I was pregnant with my little one, I stayed quite a lot at my parent's house, so my third child, Aaira, got super attached to my parents. Only they could do all her chores. So she calls m

By Aaisha Joint families undoubtedly have a significant impact on our children's lives. Grandparents are an enormous resource for homeschooling, but a housewife has to sacrifice a lot for her children. Furthermore, it is impossible to say that mixed families are without problems when a conservative family is involved. Maintaining family traditions is admirable, but they sometimes work in our lives.  The purpose of bringing up this topic is not to hurt anyone; instead, it is to illustrate the feelings of a woman or housewife. It's not just valid for modern women, I'm sure; it was also true for our moms, grandmothers, and mothers-in-law, who felt the same things but couldn't express them at the time. People tended to focus more on the disadvantages in a study on joint families in Pakistan, although I don't concur with them. However, several advantages also deserve to have a place. So let's talk about the benefits and drawbacks I have learned from my experience and

By Aaisha Assalamu Alaikum, My name is Aaisha,  and I'm a mother of four—two girls and two boys—and a housewife. There isn't anything special about me because I'm a standard housewife. However, I want to step outside my comfort zone and try something new.  My only goal is to have fun and spice up a little. I started looking for activities a housewife could do while sitting in her room because I felt a little depressed about my regular daily routine.   As my brain gradually began to function, I decided to start writing. I looked into the subject but discovered that everyone was talking about everything except us - the housewives. Since I live in Pakistan with a very conservative family, people assume housework is easy, and housewives lead comfortable lives. Still, they don't realize that it is just as exhausting to be a housewife as it is to be a working woman.  A working woman gets a day off, or a holiday, while a housewife works every holiday, every leave, and even eve